Remote Control System™
There is a split second between pressure arriving and your answer leaving. Control passes from you to a pattern inside it, and most of the time you only see it afterwards.
3 minutes. 11 questions. Free.
Share your first name and email at the end, then receive your result: the primary button
that presses on you. Your answers are yours. They are neither sold nor shared.
What presses on you
What you press
6 press on you. 4 you press.
Together they return the remote control to your hand.
RCS™ framework sequence
Pause · Notice · Reset · Decide
Four moments. Each one is a button. The quiz names which of the four is most often running you.
You heard yourself getting louder and faster than the question needed, and kept going anyway.
You said nothing in the room, then said it perfectly in the car on the way home.
The conversation you had been avoiding finally started, and you stood up to fill the kettle instead.
You heard “don’t make a fuss”, in your own voice, and followed it before you noticed it was not your voice and not your rule you were applying.
3 minutes. 11 questions. Free.
No. The quiz, Which Button Runs You?, is not a personality test. There is no score. There is no ranking.
The quiz names a pattern in motion. We invite you to learn how patterns can change. The Remote Control System™ will teach you how.
Giving a shared language to the moments pressure hits us all.
It is a free tool to support you when you are under pressure, want to pause, and too much is happening all at once.
4 prompts. 90 seconds.
No email. No account.
Solitude from the world for 90 seconds.
From the Book & Workbook Bundle
A practical system for the split second before you react.
Out 29 September 2026 · 15 chapters. 15 real moments.
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You react before you decide, and you would like to catch it earlier.
Start with the quiz.
3 minutes. 11 questions. Free.
Two of you, you and your children, you and your parents, you and a teenager. Same 10
buttons. 6 press on you. 4 you press. What happened gets a shared language instead of
getting defended.
Start with the quiz.
3 minutes. 11 questions. Free.
You want a shared language for the moment, instead of a debrief a week later.
Start with the team diagnostic.
Fridays only. 2 per month.
You are a coach, a therapist, a teacher, a social worker, a sports coach, in HR or L&D,
or your work simply puts you in the room when someone reacts before they decide. You want
to teach the Remote Control System™ framework sequence and the 10 buttons to your own
people.
Start with the certification waitlist.
For twenty-five years, I’ve researched one core question: “Why do capable, values-driven people act against their own judgement under pressure?”
I noticed I was doing it and so were my clients.
What I noticed about these capable, values-driven people was that they kept believing what they needed was more willpower, more motivation, more discipline, more work-harder effort, more fake-it-until-you-make-it attitude, a healthier mindset. Every one of them sold to themselves as the answer. Every one of these answers arrived with solutions after the moment had already gone.
The problem was never effort. It was timing.
That’s why I built the Remote Control System™, a system for the Moment, the Handover, the Gap, and the Return.
People react when the pattern that’s running is faster than the thinking. Under pressure your habitual pattern starts before your conscious, intentional choice catches up. That gap has a name. The Handover.
The 10 buttons and what happens inside the Moment, the Handover, the Gap, and the Return.
Usually 1 of 6 buttons was pressed on you and the reply left your mouth before you had decided on it. Naming which button is running you is the first important step.
No. There is no score. There is no ranking. The quiz, Which Button Runs You?, names a pattern in motion. Patterns can change.
The Remote Control System™ will teach you how.
The Remote Control System™ is for the everyday pressure moment, not a crisis. If you need urgent support, click here.