For the person who heard themselves and thought, that wasn't quite me
1 framework. 10 buttons. 3 rooms. 1 shared language.
It's 6pm. The question is reasonable. You've already answered it twice today, and this time your voice comes out at a volume you didn't choose.
By 11pm you're still going over it. That didn't feel like me.
You've had that thought before. You'll have it again on Thursday.
1 shared language.
That was the Volume button, and it presses on you. It isn't temper, and it isn't a character flaw. It's a pattern that starts faster than your thinking does.
The split second where it started has a name. We call that the Handover.
3 rooms. Several moments move between them.
7am to drop off, or 6pm to bedtime, or both. The same stretch most days, and the voice you didn't choose to use.
The conversation you can't get out of, with the sentence you didn't say still sitting unspoken.
Where a reaction costs you standing rather than a relationship, and everybody watched.
You already know which one is yours. You knew before you finished reading them.
Reham Nasr is the Developer of the Remote Control System™ and the Founder of Transform You Now.
She spent 25 years researching one question: “Why do capable, values-driven people act against their own judgement under pressure?”
What she noticed was that she was doing it herself, and so were her clients. At first everything pointed to the need for more willpower, more discipline, more healthy mindset. Every one of those answers arrived after the moment had already gone.
The problem was never effort. It was timing.
The answer was the Remote Control System™, the split second before you react. 1 framework sequence. 10 buttons: 6 press on you. 4 you press. 1 shared language.
The book and workbook bundle, Who Has Your Remote Control?, publishes 29 September.
1 email. 1x a week. 3 minutes. Every issue is the same 4 parts, and the sameness is deliberate.
1 person. 1 room. 1 real moment.
The exact split second your response stopped being yours. The Handover.
The difference between what you want and what you need. The Gap between them.
Your button turns up looking like something reasonable. That's why you haven't caught it often enough.
Once a week. 3 minutes to read. It's free. You can unsubscribe at any time in 2 clicks.
1 email per week. 3 minutes. Free.
1 shared language is the aim.
If 2 or more people in the room have the same name for what button is being pressed, you experience something actually rare. A partner can say “I think my Volume button just got pressed”, and the room knows what that means, and nobody has to be accused of anything.
That's psychological safety in action. That is what 1 shared language buys you.
One noticed pattern at a time.
No. Naming what happened is free, and that's the whole of this email. The book and the workbook bundle are where you find what to do about the button being pressed.
No. Nothing here assumes you've taken anything. Every word is explained the first time it's used, every week, because somebody is always reading their first one. If you'd rather know which button runs you before you start, the quiz is here. 3 minutes. 11 questions. Free.
No. There's no score and no ranking. It names a pattern in motion. Patterns can change.
It won't make you pressure-proof. Nothing does, and anybody saying otherwise hasn't been in the room. What it gives you is earlier recognition, which is a smaller promise than most of what you've been handed, and one that holds.
Once a week, on a Tuesday. About 3 minutes to read. It's free, and you can unsubscribe at any time in 2 clicks.
Yes. Every issue can be replied to, and the replies come to me. If something in one of them was your Tuesday as well, tell me. I read them.
It's for the split second before you react.
P.S. The next time it happens it'll happen at the usual speed. The difference a Tuesday makes isn't that the moment slows down. It's that you'll have a name for it while it's still going on.
~Reham, Developer of the Remote Control System™
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