Remote Control System™ · The Book
Who Has Your Remote Control?
For the split second before you, your family, your team and your clients react.
Most people already know what they should have said. They just find the words an hour too late: in the car, in the shower, at 11pm. Who Has Your Remote Control? is a short, practical book about that split second, what presses on you before you answer and how to take your remote control back sooner.
You don’t need to have read a book like this before. Each of the 15 chapters is one real moment from an ordinary day, at home or at work, and the button that was running it. Not advice about staying calm. A system for the split second before you react, and a name for what happens in it.
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Published 29 September 2026 · 15 chapters. 15 real moments.
Does this sound like you or someone you know?
You knew better. You said it anyway. Or you said nothing in the meeting, then said it perfectly in the car on the way home.
If that’s you, or someone you live or work with, the book names what happened in that split second, and the button that was running it.
5 minutes. 16 questions. Free.
What it costs
Every week it keeps running, it’s another 6pm you replay at 11pm. Another meeting where you said yes and meant no. Another Thursday at 4:45pm with the one task still waiting.
It doesn’t announce itself. It just keeps the same time.
Picture next Tuesday
6pm. Coats and bags are still on the floor by the door. 3 questions at once. You feel the Volume Button press on you. This time, you notice it while it’s happening.
You still answer. You decide to answer with an intentional response, on purpose.
What’s inside
Each chapter is one ordinary moment, at home or at work, and the button that was running it. Moments you will recognise from your own week.
6 press on you. 4 you press. Named, so you can notice the one that’s pressing in the split second it happens.
The Moment, The Handover™, The Gap and The Return™: when it happens, and where you come back.
Pause. Notice. Reset. Decide. What you run inside the Gap, so you answer on purpose.
Naming is free. Learning is the book. It teaches the RCS™ framework sequence and the 10 buttons. Practising is the workbook. Catching the Moment is the app. That’s the Remote Control System™ in action.
The 4 events are when it happens: The Moment, The Handover™, The Gap, The Return™
The 10 buttons: 6 press on you. 4 you press.
The 1 framework sequence: Pause. Notice. Reset. Decide.
The 1 shared language.
What presses on you
What you press
The load is the weight you carry when the moment arrives: the endless questions since 7am, the meeting that ran over, the message you have not answered. Pressure is the load. The other 5 are how the load shows up in you.
6 press on you. 4 you press.
Together they return the remote control to your hand.
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What readers say
“The chapter on the Handover named something I had been doing for decades without a word for it. I finished this book in two sittings and started the workbook the same week.”
Head of Operations, Healthcare sector · reader
“In emergency medicine you are always operating under pressure. Most training covers the technical response. This book addresses what happens before the technical response begins.”
Emergency Medicine Consultant · reader
Developed by Reham Nasr, working where pressure meets behaviour since 1998. Her rooms include NHS Education for Scotland, Scottish Enterprise, Aegon and Edinburgh City Council.
From the author
Why I wrote it
One question has run through my work since 1998: why do capable, values-driven people act against their own judgement under pressure?
I was doing it and so were my clients. Everything I had learned arrived after the moment had already gone. The problem was never effort. It was timing.
Reham Nasr, Developer of the Remote Control System™
Organisations Reham has worked with, directly and through partner programmes:
- Phoenix Group
- Edinburgh City Council
- NHS Education for Scotland
- EY Foundation
- HappyPorch
- Citi
- FirstGroup
- First Bus
- ScotRail
- Highland Spring
- FutureX
- Radiant & Brighter
- Brodie Engineering
- Make Your Mark
- Victim Support Scotland
- Workplace Equality Fund
Formats
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The Bundle · book and workbook · paperbacks
Everything you get
- ✓Who Has Your Remote Control?Paperback · 15 chapters, 15 real moments£17.99
- ✓
The Official WorkbookPaperback · 8 x 10, room to write£27.99
You save £8.98
Published 29 September 2026.
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The cover, front to back
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Keeper of the Remote Control
The Remote Control System™ teaches you how to take back your remote control into your hand to become the Keeper of the Remote Control (KRC).
A KRC still feels the pressure. A KRC sees the Handover™ earlier, and says “that was Volume” out loud, so the people around them learn it and apply it with you too.
Frequently asked questions
What is the book about?
The split second between pressure arriving and your response leaving. It teaches the RCS™ framework sequence: Pause · Notice · Reset · Decide. It names the 10 buttons: 6 press on you, 4 you press. This framework sequence and these buttons operate in The Moment, The Handover™, The Gap and The Return™.
Is this a book about decision making?
Yes, about the decisions you make in the split second under pressure: the yes that leaves before you have decided on it, the reply that goes out louder than you meant, the sentence you drop. It is not a book about big life decisions.
How is this different from other books about reacting?
Everyone is taught what to do. No one is taught when. Most advice works before the moment or after it. This book works inside it: earlier recognition, earlier interruption, a faster return and a shared language for the people around you.
Is this a book about anger?
No. Anger is one of the emotions that can trigger a button to press on you, and it is not alone. The book also covers urgency, loyalty, fear, duty and the wish to keep the peace. It is a book about the moment, not about one emotion.
Do I need the workbook?
Naming is free. Learning is the book. It teaches the RCS™ framework sequence and the 10 buttons. Practising is the workbook. Catching the Moment is the app. That’s the Remote Control System™ in action. The book teaches the system. The workbook is where the system stops being an idea and starts being your weekly operating system. Together they are £37.
If you have read it
The book was published on 29 September 2026. The first reviews are the ones every later reader sees first. Yours could be one of them.
Three lines is a review.
Name one moment
A takeaway, a real moment you caught or a line that stayed with you.
Say why it mattered
What changed, or what you saw that you had not seen before.
Say who you would hand it to, and who you would not
This is the part the next reader uses most.
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There is no incentive, and there never will be. If it did not land, say that too. A page of five-star reviews with nothing between them is less believable than an honest three.
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Which Button Runs YOU?
5 minutes. 16 questions. Free.
Since the book was printed, Which Button Runs YOU? has been expanded to 5 minutes and 16 questions, to ensure all 6 buttons that press on you are fully captured in your results.
Leading a team? Which Button Runs THE ROOM? → · Raising a family? Which Button Runs THE FAMILY? →
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