The Boundary Kit · £27 · digital download
The sentence you meant to say before the moment arrived
For the split second before you, your family, your team or your clients react.
That split second has a name: the Handover™. The 10 buttons let you name it, so you notice it earlier and come back faster.
The Remote Control System™ teaches you and each member of your family, team or even your clients how to take back your remote control into your hand to become the Keeper of the Remote Control (KRC).
For the meeting where you meant to say no, and heard yourself say yes. One button, worked all the way through.
£27. One payment. PDF and a sentence card. Delivered to you electronically in minutes. 14-day money back guarantee.
It’s 9:40am. Your team lead asks if you can take it on. You meant to say no. You hear yourself say “Of course.”
Or it’s 6pm, and the family group chat asks who is hosting this weekend. You type a full paragraph, delete it and send a thumbs up.
You knew what to say. Knowing what to say has never been the problem.
The sentence you did not say was almost always a boundary.
Boundary is 1 of the 6 that press on you: a line being crossed or tested; something arriving that is not yours to carry. It’s the one where the distance between knowing and doing is widest.
Mute is the other button in the room: going quiet exactly when your voice is needed.
Mute is what happened to the sentence. Boundary is what the sentence was.
What does it include
The Boundary Kit · £27 · digital download
The sentence
How to build the shortest true version of what you need to say, for the situation you are actually in. Not a script to memorise. A method, so it works on the next one too.
The rehearsal
Getting you comfortable saying it before it’s needed, which is the step that separates a sentence you said from a sentence you meant to say.
The recovery
What happens in the 10 seconds after, when they push back, go quiet or agree far too quickly. The 4 shapes of push-back, the second sentence and the legitimate pause. This is where first attempts come undone.
The first one
Who to start with, a 3-day run and your sentence card to print.
PDF and a sentence card. Delivered to you electronically in minutes.
What changes
- ·The shortest true version of what you need to say, ready before the meeting.
- ·A rehearsal, so the first time you say it isn’t the real time.
- ·Something to do in the 10 seconds after they push back, go quiet or agree far too quickly.
- ·You recognise the moment the sentence starts to go quiet, earlier.
“The Remote Control System™ is precise enough to use and simple enough to remember under any type of pressure.”
Executive Leadership Coach & Facilitator · reader
Who developed it
Developed by Reham Nasr, Developer of the Remote Control System™, working where pressure meets behaviour since 1998.
“I’ve been researching one question: why do capable, values-driven people act against their own judgement under pressure? I was doing it and so were my clients.”
Reham Nasr
Naming is free. Learning is the book. It teaches the RCS™ framework sequence and the 10 buttons. Practising is the workbook. Catching the Moment is the app. That’s the Remote Control System™ in action.
What the Remote Control System™ will and will not do
Nothing honest can promise you will stop reacting. Here’s what it can promise.
What it will not do
- ✗ Not pressure-proof
- ✗ Not pattern-free
- ✗ Not perfect
What it will do
- ✓ Pressure-aware
- ✓ Pattern-aware
- ✓ Practised
You will notice the Moment earlier, sometimes as it happens rather than that evening.
You will interrupt it more often than you do now.
You will miss some. When you do, you will have a way back instead of an apology you make up on the spot.
This is not therapy. It’s not a diagnosis. It’s about everyday pressures during an ordinary week. If what’s underneath is bigger than that, this is the wrong platform for you, and support is here.
14-day money back guarantee
Get it and use it. If it’s not for you, email [email protected] within 14 days of buying and your £27 comes back to you. No form to fill in, no reason to give. Anything you saved or printed is yours either way.
The next “Can you take this on?” arrives in your next meeting, or the next time the family group chat asks who’s hosting. The kit arrives in minutes, so the sentence can be ready first.
The Boundary Kit · £27 · digital download
Everything you get
- ✓The sentenceThe shortest true version of what you need to say.PDF
- ✓The rehearsalComfortable saying it before it’s needed.PDF
- ✓The recoveryThe 10 seconds after, when they push back, go quiet or agree far too quickly.PDF
- ✓The first oneWho to start with, a 3-day run and your sentence card to print.PDF + card
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Familiarise yourself with the RCS™ shared language
The Remote Control System™ shared language is free, and it’s meant to be shared with the people you work with, live with and do life with.
The whole system, stated the one way it’s always stated
The 4 events are when it happens: The Moment, The Handover™, The Gap, The Return™
The 10 buttons: 6 press on you. 4 you press.
The 1 framework sequence: Pause. Notice. Reset. Decide.
The 1 shared language.
What presses on you
What you press
The Remote Control System™ teaches you how to take back your remote control into your hand to become the Keeper of the Remote Control (KRC).
What is asked in return: name the Remote Control System™ when you share its language with anyone else.
Press any button on Your Remote Control and see what it looks like when it lands. Open Your Remote Control →
Your questions, answered
Why do I say yes when I meant to say no?
Two buttons are in the room. Boundary is a line being crossed or tested; something arriving that is not yours to carry. Mute is going quiet exactly when your voice is needed. Mute is what happened to the sentence. Boundary is what the sentence was.
How do I say no in a meeting when I always say yes?
Have the sentence ready before the meeting arrives. The Boundary Kit works out the shortest true version of what you need to say, gets you comfortable saying it before it’s needed, and prepares you for the 10 seconds after, when they push back, go quiet or agree far too quickly.
What is in The Boundary Kit?
A PDF in 3 parts: the sentence, the rehearsal and the recovery. It’s a method, not a script to memorise, so it works on the next moment too. It costs £27 and is delivered to you electronically in minutes.
Will it make the conversation comfortable?
No. It will not make the conversation comfortable, and it will not make the other person respond well. What it offers: you recognise the moment the sentence starts to go quiet earlier.
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